For the Unfaithful Spouse Recovery for the unfaithful spouse requires much more humility and personal responsibility than that of the betrayed spouse. These articles are specifically to navigate recovery for the unfaithful spouse. Must Reads more less Pimping Tenderness & Grooming Behaviors Rebuilding Trust After An Affair Q&A How Can I Begin to Heal Our Relationship? Telling Your Children After the Affair Doesn’t Always Turn Out As Expected How Could You? Part IV - Doublespeak and Distorted Comparisons The 2 Stages of Pain Dealing with Infidelity: How to Get You Mate to Cooperate (Without Being Controlling) How Could You? Part I: Why We Commit Betrayal With Infidelity Ending an Affair: Lock the Door Part 1 Untransformed Pain will be Transmitted 20 Most Common Mistakes of the Hurt Spouse The Myth of the Greener Grass: Where Are You Investing? The Problem with Forgiveness Why Did My Spouse Cheat? We Started Well, but... Bedside Forgiveness: When Death Coincides With Infidelity How to Survive Infidelity Recovery Timeline How do you respond to blackmail? Part II 298 Resources Type Title Posted Healing After an Affair: Emotional Flooding and Reminders 9/20/2023 Q&A Do I Have the Right to Know What My Spouse Is Doing to Monitor Me? 9/12/2023 How Do You Deal With Anger After Infidelity? 9/06/2023 Relapse: Why Can't You Stop? 8/23/2023 Q&A How Do I Show Empathy Towards My Wife after Her Revenge Affair When She Refuses to Give Full Disclosure? 8/15/2023 The Antidote for Shame: Understanding the Unfaithful 7/26/2023 How Can You Move Past Ambivalence After Infidelity? 7/19/2023 Denial and Recovery After an Affair 7/05/2023 Hope for Healing Excerpt: 'Is My Life Out of Control?' 6/21/2023 Q&A How Can I Continue to Be Empathetic to Her If in Spite of All I Do, It Is Still Not Enough? 6/16/2023 Q&A I Understand the Importance of Not Being Defensive about the Infidelity or Betrayal, but Does That Extend into Every Aspect of Our Lives? 6/16/2023 Q&A How Did ADHD and Other Factors Like Depression and Anxiety Contribute to My Affairs? 6/16/2023 How to Get Your Mate to Cooperate (Without Being Controlling) 5/24/2023 Q&A Why Do I Still Respond Physically like I Am Lying When I’m Telling the Truth? 5/19/2023 Q&A Are Any Lasting Feelings for the Affair Partner Permitted? 5/19/2023 Affair Recovery Steps: How to Live Without Fear After Infidelity 5/17/2023 Q&A I’m Losing Compassion for My Mate. What Can I Do? 5/02/2023 Q&A How Do You Recommend I Write My Closure Letter to the Affair Partner? 4/20/2023 Q&A Do We Have a Chance at Recovery If He Is Unable to Understand How Trauma Can Impact Me? 3/17/2023 Q&A How Do I Approach This Polygraph without Feeling like My Marriage Is on the Line? 3/17/2023 Discovery: Part 2 - Advice For The Wayward Spouse 3/15/2023 Q&A How Can I Convince My Mate That I’m Not Talking to the Affair Partner? 3/02/2023 Q&A How Do I Explain Disassociation and It’s Part in the Affair? 1/26/2023 Q&A How Do I Help My Husband Understand the Effects of Trauma While Also Letting Him See That It Is Not an Excuse for My Actions? 1/11/2023 Q&A How Do I Explain That My Childhood Trauma Triggered My Actions and Doesn’t Remove My Accountability Even If I Did Disassociate? 1/11/2023 Q&A What Is a Realistic Timeline for My Own Recovery with C-PTSD and Childhood Trauma and Being Able to Answer Every Specifically Detailed ‘Why'? 1/11/2023 Why is Trusting Again So Hard? 1/04/2023 Surviving the Holidays: 6 Tips 12/22/2022 Q&A How Do I Get over All of the Pain That I Have Caused? 12/06/2022 Pleasing Versus Loving 11/29/2022 How to survive an affair – How much should I share with my spouse? 11/15/2022 The Mystery of Change 11/02/2022 Am I Who They Want? 10/19/2022 Q&A Are My Kids Really ‘Love Children’ from My Affairs? 10/13/2022 Q&A How Can the Unfaithful Work through the Deception Regarding the Infidelity? 10/13/2022 Q&A How Can I Help My Husband Believe I’m Not Manipulating Him? 10/13/2022 Q&A Will I Be Able to Find My Wife Sexually Attractive Again or Have I Broken My Brain? 10/13/2022 The Proper Use of Boundaries - Creating Space for Healing and Change 10/05/2022 Q&A How Can an Unfaithful Spouse Develop Emotional Intelligence? 9/13/2022 The Fantasyland of an Affair 8/24/2022 Intrusive Thoughts After the Affair: How to Manage Flooding 8/17/2022 Q&A Is It Strange for the Unfaithful to Have Depression? 8/03/2022 Why Did They Choose the Affair Partner? 7/20/2022 Q&A How Do I Keep My Boundaries Strong in a Place of Leadership? 7/07/2022 Q&A Am I Just Playing the Victim to Reduce My Guilt? 7/01/2022 Why Couples Fail After an Affair | Part 4 - Not Grieving the Loss 6/15/2022 Q&A How Do I Respond to the Betrayed’s Triggers When It’s Affecting My Mental Health Now? 6/14/2022 Why Couples Fail After an Affair | Part 3 - Hiding in Denial 6/08/2022 Why Couples Fail After an Affair | Part 2 - Not Getting It 6/01/2022 Why Couples Fail After an Affair | Part 1 - Not Knowing What Happened 5/25/2022 Pages123456next ›last »