I have been married 19 years, and my husband has had a long distance affair for 18 months with someone that he met online. To my knowledge, this is his first affair, and I believe that I got full discovery when we began our EMS Online class. He has met with her in person several times, traveling across the country to be with her under the guise of different lies. He claims that he has tried to end it with her multiple times, but he never follows through on our safety plan and ends up talking with her and connecting online again. To complicate matters, she has borderline personality disorder, and my husband is her “favorite person.” Every attempt to end things with her is filled with suicidal & self-harm threats. This past weekend my husband turned off his Life360 app and disappeared for several days. I’m certain they’re together. I am tired of offering second chances. He’s obviously not choosing transparency and he isn’t safe, so what do you recommend? Do you have experience with BPD affairs?