Q&A Can My Wife Be In Limerence Twice with the Same Man or Is It Love?

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My wife had an affair in 2015/16 with her ex-fiancé of 27 years ago. She displayed intense signs of limerence; said he was her soulmate, was the only man in the world for her, he was her true love, etc. She went back and forth between her affair partner and our marriage but finally ended the affair after a year for the sake of our 3 young children, per her words. She eventually returned emotionally to the marriage and me but was not fully committed (refused to go on date nights, connect or be vulnerable) and consistently continued to say that she would always love her affair partner. Eight years later, she received a call from her affair partner on her birthday and she is now in a full-blown affair again and now says she made a mistake and never should have married me because she really never loved me and has always loved her affair partner. She points out that the reason she did not marry her ex-fiancé is that he was divorced, he had 3 young children, she wanted children of her own and her family didn't approve of him. She says she has great regret over her decision to terminate a pregnancy prior to meeting her ex-fiancé because she now believes that had she not done so she would have married her ex and they would be happily married today.



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