Q&A Should I Allow my Husband to Move Back in?

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We are scheduled to come to the January EMS weekend. My husband has been living out of the home for a month due to yet another affair. Nearly 5 years ago I found out of a 9 year affair and a 2 month affair...back to back. I knew of several "crushes" with work women after the first D-day. At the disclosure of the 2nd D-day, I found out he had been in email or phone contact with both previous APs for several years. During our 4 year recovery he has attended meetings, seen therapists, etc and all the while faking the recovery. He says he has broken off all contact and seems to want to try to work through this AGAIN. I am not sure at all that I want to. The deeply ingrained pattern of lying without remorse seems unworkable. We have completed the Boot Camp and I have committed to wait 90 days to judge the situation. I do not see him as being broken and repentant, he just says he is very sorry. My question is, do I ask him to come back home (he can sleep upstairs) so I can better observe his behavior?



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