Q&A How Do You Stop Thinking About and Forgive The Affair Partner?

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It's been 2 and half years since last contact, but I found out more about a year ago. The affair partner took breaks with my husband at work when she was supposed to leave. They kissed and then talked over text about sex and then told him in person she had fantasies about him. They never actually had sex. When I exposed her to her family she was told by everyone to stop contact, but that didn’t happen. Present day my husband knows she's a terrible person, but he also takes responsibility for the pain and evil choices he's made. In one way I want him to write a letter to her about the truth. About how he never actually cared for her etc but were both concerned because it's been 2 and half years she would like the attention. I'm afraid that she truly thinks my husband wanted her. Last contact was made when my husband was drunk because he thought I was leaving him. So he started messaging her saying he loved her and that kissing her wasn't a mistake. She replied saying her family blamed her for our marriage problems and didn't want to be a homewrecker. When my husband realized what he was doing he said "What the hell am I doing. I'm so drunk." She then said goodbye. I don’t know how to find closure. I want her out of my head.



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