Q&A How Do I Stop the Triggers and Reminders When Every Day They Are There?

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We have been married for 40 years. The first affair began the month we got married. I knew for a fact because he was blatantly open about it. Another one I suspected. In august of 2020 he told me about the 2nd affair, which was with the person who was supposedly my best friend and it lasted over 20 years. I just discovered last summer that something was going on with him and the next door neighbor. He denied it until 2 months ago. He finally admitted it and claims it never got physical just a lot of sexually charged flirting back and forth. During EMS Online he revealed that this was actually his 5th affair, the other 4 were all sexual and that this one had been going on for 2 years. He has been unfaithful for all 40 years of our marriage. This last one has been the most devastating because we have a shared driveway and my house faces hers and every time I walk out of my house or walk pass a window I am looking at her house or having to see her. This causes a lot of triggers and constant reminders. How do I handle this? How do I stop the triggers and reminders when every day they are there? It is hard for me to go to work because all of this was happening while I was at work. I had never seen them together until last summer when he had gone out to the garage for something and I walked by the window and saw them talking and their body language told all.



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