I find myself having days where I'm so depressed I just lay on the couch all day and have to call off work. The days when I don't feel that overwhelming depression, I can hardly focus on work at all, all I can think about is the betrayal or nothing at all. It's as though my work is so stressful that my brain doesn't even want to think about it. I'm missing deadlines at work and am concerned they may let me go. I'm going to try to apply for FMLA (Family & Medical Leave Act). Is it common for betrayed spouses to have trouble with depression and lack of focus which detrimentally affects their work?