Q&A How Should I Answer Him When He Says I Should Forgive Him like the Bible Says to Forgive?

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With all the offenses my husband had done to me, after separating for more than 2 months, we are working on our marriage and are actually in a good place, he is a better husband and person. However, I would have days, maybe every 2 weeks or so, that I would get bad triggers and would be very angry and would ask him to reaffirm me about our current relationship, that he is committed and remorseful. I would also ask him to empathize and expect him to apologize for the specific offense that triggers me. There are times, half the time, when he'd tell me I probably have not really forgiven him because if I did, I won't ask him to apologize again for specific offense he already asked forgiveness for. He says perhaps I have not really forgiven him because if I did, I should have forgiven him as forgiveness should be in the bible- total forgiveness? I get angry with him when he throws in the Word of God in our conversation; I am thinking "hey, the bible says do not commit adultery as well, but you kept doing it with the same person after I gave you chances to change". How should I answer him when he says I should forgive him like the bible says to forgive?



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