Q&A What Does Making Restitution Look Like in a Marriage after an Affair?

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My husband and I have both been unfaithful and we are currently in EMS Online. Our group leader suggested looking at the “5 Apology Languages” as supplemental sources, so my husband and I both completed the online quiz to determine our apology languages. We both have a primary language of Making Restitution. I understand that there is nothing that can ever be done to fully make restitution for our actions and that forgiveness from the other person is necessary to move forward with reconciliation, yet I still feel like at least some effort at restitution should be made at the very least to show that we are willing to move forward from this, but how? What actions could be considered making restitution? This is something he and I have talked about and have both struggled with finding an answer to yet both agree that it is something we want and believe would help our progress. Any suggestions would be helpful, thank you.



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