Why They Did It

The lingering question that haunts almost everyone recovering from infidelity: Why? The unfaithful spouse may not know why just yet, but use these articles to gain insight and, eventually, freedom from the uncertainty.

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Video icon Q&A Can You Help Me Make Sense of My Wife's Desire for Erotica?
Video icon His Addiction, Her Affair: Healing When Both Are Betrayed
Video icon Q&A Does A Porn Addiction Make Someone's Brain More Susceptible to An Affair?
Video icon Is My Spouse a Sex Addict? Signs, Hope and What to Do Next with Matt Wenger
Video icon The Biggest Myths About Unfaithful Wives
Video icon Why It Happened Again: An Unfaithful Man's Story of Real Recovery
Video icon Q&A Why Did They Allow the Abuse to Continue?
Video icon Understanding the Mind of the Unfaithful: Minimizing the Affair
Video icon The Hidden Cause of Affairs and Finding Answers with Jay Stringer
Video icon Q&A How Do I See the Wayward as a Good Person Who Made a Serious Mistake?
Video icon Q&A How Will She Ever Know Why She Really Had the Affair?
Video icon The #1 Question: WHY Did the Affair Happen?
Video icon Q&A Why Isn't More Time Spent Discovering Why They Had an Affair?
Video icon How Does My Spouse Escape the Neurochemical Process of Limerence?
Video icon Q&A How Can You Love Your Partner and Still Have an Affair?
Video icon Q&A Is My Spouse's Financial Infidelity Linked to Their Affair or Is It a Separate Issue?
Video icon Q&A Why Would Someone Put Such a Cherished Relationship at Risk with an Affair?
Video icon Q&A How Could He So Easily Forget the Pain He Caused?
Video icon Surviving Infidelity: Three Types of Reconciliation
Video icon Q&A What Makes Someone Vulnerable to a Previous Romantic Partner?
Video icon Q&A How Can the Unfaithful Spouse Love Me and Have an Affair Partner?
Video icon Moving from Self-Hatred to Self-Compassion
Video icon How Do I Know I Am Not “Plan B?”
Video icon The Myth of Greener Grass in Marriage
Video icon Q&A How Could He Possibly Call What He Had with the Affair Partner ‘Love'?
Text icon Nine Signs of an Emotional Affair
Video icon Q&A Who Falls in True Love with an Affair Partner?
Video icon Q&A How Much of This Developmental Trauma Contributed to Me Having an Affair in Adulthood?
Video icon Q&A Does It Matter Who Ended the Affair?
Text icon Why Did They Choose the Affair Partner?
Text icon How to Prevent Relapse After Infidelity
Video icon Were They Thinking of Me?
Text icon Common Justifications for Why Women Cheat
Video icon Q&A Did My Wife Need to Justify Her Behavior in Cheating on Me?
Video icon Reclaiming Dignity and Worth as a Woman with Laurie Bryson, M.A. & LPC
Text icon Pimping Tenderness & Grooming Behaviors
Video icon Q&A Will I Ever Accept His Reasons for the Affairs?
Video icon 2 Things You Must Understand About the Disclosure Process
Video icon A Toxic Mix: Gaslighting and Infidelity
Video icon Q&A How Do I Address Her Readiness to Engage With Someone So Despicable Versus Her Resistance to Reconnect Intimately With Me?
Video icon Q&A How Much Does Alcohol Play a Factor in a One Night Stand?
Video icon Q&A How Do We Know if Our Cheating Spouse Is a Sex Addict, Has a Personality Disorder, or if It Is Something Else?
Video icon The Affair Causing Habit
Video icon The Truth About Lying
Video icon Q&A How Can Someone Love You Even During the Betrayal?
Video icon Q&A Can My Wife Be In Limerence Twice with the Same Man or Is It Love?
Video icon Q&A How Do We Navigate Seeing the Emotional Part of the Affair Differently?
Text icon Recovering From Infidelity Pain: Are They Lying About ‘Why’?
Video icon Q&A Why Would He Go Back to the Same Person He Thinks Is So Nasty?
Video icon Q&A How Did ADHD and Other Factors Like Depression and Anxiety Contribute to My Affairs?