For The Hurt Spouse There are many aspects in the recovery of the betrayed spouse that will look very different from the unfaithful spouse. These articles are written specifically for healing and to provide hope and encouragement for the hurt spouse. Must Reads more less Untransformed Pain will be Transmitted Ending an Affair: Lock the Door Part 1 Does Time Heal All Wounds? Healing After An Affair How to Survive Infidelity Rebuilding Trust After An Affair Bedside Forgiveness: When Death Coincides With Infidelity Coping with Infidelity: The 2 Stages of Pain Discovery: Part 1 - How to Handle Discovery Dealing with Infidelity: How to Get You Mate to Cooperate (Without Being Controlling) 20 Most Common Mistakes of the Unfaithful Spouse Surviving Infidelity Part 1: What Do You Need to Know? Pimping Tenderness & Grooming Behaviors How Long Does It Take to Recover From An Affair? Social Shame: Understanding the Paralysis of it Why People Cheat: The Fog of Self-Deception (Part 1) The Seven Mistakes Churches Make When Dealing With Infidelity Why Couples Fail After an Affair | Part 1 - Not Knowing What Happened How Could You? Part IV - Doublespeak and Distorted Comparisons Surviving Infidelity: The #1 Challenge to Recovery 31 Reasons to Stop an Affair: Part 1 20 Most Common Mistakes of the Hurt Spouse Healing After an Affair: How do I Address Unmanageability? The Problem with Forgiveness Why Did My Spouse Cheat? A Crucial Question In Healing After An Affair Ending an Affair - Step One: Make the Decision Affair Recovery Timeline for Healing After Betrayal Infidelity Counseling: How Effective Is It? The Power of Small Groups How Could You? Part I: Why We Commit Betrayal With Infidelity Surviving Infidelity: What Do We Tell the Kids? 1272 Resources Type Title Posted Q&A As the Betrayed, Is It Wise to Seek Closure with the Affair Partner? 4/23/2025 Deciding to Stay: Practical Ways to Rebuild Safety 4/23/2025 Q&A Why Do I Get Aroused Imagining the Sexual Acts My Wife Did with Her Affair Partner? 4/16/2025 Q&A Do You Suggest He Focus On Healing Himself First, Then Our Marriage? 4/09/2025 The Myth of Greener Grass in Marriage 4/09/2025 Q&A How Do I Know If My Spouse Really Shut the Door on the Affair Partner? 4/02/2025 Q&A What Do I Look for to Know the Affair Isn’t Still Happening? 4/02/2025 Lies We Believe About Our Spouse 4/02/2025 Q&A How Should I Respond When He Shares Lies with Me, Especially If I Perceive He Is Sugar-Coating the Truth? 4/01/2025 Q&A Can I Forgive My Husband for Abandonment? 4/01/2025 Q&A What Advice Do You Have for Journaling as a Betrayed Spouse? 3/26/2025 Nine Signs of an Emotional Affair 3/12/2025 Wanting to Be Wanted 3/05/2025 Am I Who They Want? 2/25/2025 Q&A Why Can’t My Husband See the Affair Partner Through a Negative Lens? 2/25/2025 Q&A Does It Matter Who Ended the Affair? 2/25/2025 Why Did They Choose the Affair Partner? 2/19/2025 Q&A Can the Wayward Spouse Really Have No Triggers? 2/18/2025 Q&A Please Help Me Understand What My Reality Is as We Try to Recover from This. 2/11/2025 Q&A How Do I Tell the Wayward Spouse I Need More Discussion to Heal and Process? 2/11/2025 Q&A Why Has My Spouse Refused to Cut Ties with His High School Sweetheart? 2/04/2025 Q&A Is It Unrealistic to Expect Raw Emotion from My Unfaithful Wife? 2/04/2025 Is My Mate Truly Committed to Recovery? 1/22/2025 Q&A How Do I Find Closure When the Affair Partner Is a Close Family Friend? 1/14/2025 Q&A What Do You Do If the Wayward Spouse Shows No Remorse, Empathy, or Compassion? 1/14/2025 Q&A How Important Is Attunement When Recovering from an Affair? 1/08/2025 Parenting Through Infidelity: A Father/Daughter Perspective 12/26/2024 Tips for Surviving the Holidays 12/18/2024 Q&A How Can I Rebuild Trust When His Words Still Feel Scripted and Devoid of Genuine Empathy? 12/17/2024 Were They Thinking of Me? 12/04/2024 Q&A What If My Husband Doesn’t Want to Change? 12/03/2024 Q&A How Do I Feel Safe Knowing That the Worst Pain I Have Ever Felt Could Possibly Happen Again? 12/03/2024 The Fantasyland of an Affair 11/27/2024 Q&A Will She Ever Tell the Truth Without Being Backed Into a Corner? 11/26/2024 Mistakes Families Make After an Affair 11/13/2024 Q&A How Do I Respond If I Don’t Believe My Spouse? 11/12/2024 Q&A Could My Husband’s Actions Be Early Signs of Relapse? 10/30/2024 Q&A How Do I Support My Partner and Accept That I Can’t Control Their Recovery Journey? 10/30/2024 Q&A How Do I Help My Unfaithful Husband as He Seems to Be So Buried in Shame, Self-Loathing, and a Huge Sense of Worthlessness? 10/22/2024 Q&A How Do I Come to Terms With My New Reality as a Betrayed Spouse? 10/22/2024 Q&A Is It Normal for Family to Feel Disappointed at Us for Staying With the Wayward Spouse? 10/01/2024 Q&A Why Does My Husband (Wayward) Not Want to Reconnect With Me (Betrayed) Physically? 10/01/2024 Q&A Am I a Fool for Being Vulnerable With My Mate? 10/01/2024 How to Get Your Mate to Cooperate 9/25/2024 Q&A How Do I Get the Lying and the Porn Use by My Husband to Stop? 9/18/2024 Q&A How Do I Feel Special Again After I Have Lost So Much Including Places That Were Just Ours? 9/18/2024 Q&A How Do I Replace What I Feel With What I Know, if I Don’t Know What the Truth Is? 9/18/2024 Q&A How Do I Shut Down the Intrusive Thoughts of My Husband With the Affair Partners That Have Become Erotic to Me? 9/18/2024 Q&A How Can I Get These Images Out of My Mind and Get back to Just Being With My Husband? 9/18/2024 A Discussion on Anger, Boundaries and Regrets After Infidelity 9/18/2024 Pages123456789…next ›last »