Q&A How Can I Help My Husband Understand My Concerns?

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My husband has admitted to two category 2 affairs and one category 5 affair. He has dealt with a porn addiction for nearly 28 years. Discovery was 20 months ago. My question is around a number of other things which don't fit - women who he has worked with, for whom he has photos of saved on his iPad and for whom he has at least one personal contact detail, either cell number or email, in addition to their work contact details. He says they have never reached the level of an emotional affair and yet I am concerned about them. He has exchanged gifts with some. Should I be concerned? If so, how can I help my husband understand my concerns? Is this more a boundary issue for him, rather than an affair issue? He says they are just friends or just work colleagues.



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