Q&A How Do I Break Through?

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My wife is brainwashed, how do I break through? My wife has been involved with a third-world, online romantic scammer for a year and a half. I've tried EVERYTHING imaginable to stop it, but to no avail. This scammer has poisoned her mind and she has become one of many "Money Mules" that send money overseas to their "soulmate" or get used for immigration entry. I believe my wife was vulnerable to this crime because of postpartum depression. We have had a wonderful life together for 18 years. Four beautiful children. Our family is now wrecked and trauma has ruled our home for all this time. She sees me, not him, as a monster, and last night promised to push the divorce she filed in February because I've been insisting that she get help. I've struggled with anger and the incomprehensibleness of the situation, but have overcome much of it. I feel in many ways sorry for her and I feel her shame and internal conflict. My wife is wholly unrepentant and unwilling to work on the marriage at all. Ordinarily, in a situation where someone is so "checked out" of the marriage, it might be advisable to just move on. But I feel torn between caring for a woman that needs me by her side more than ever, and clinging on like a fool to someone who is no longer there. I feel like this will go on and on without a game changer. How do I break through?



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