I am almost 4 years past the first D-Day and three years past the last D-Day. It has been an amazing journey to get to know myself a little better, and understand why people betray others. My husband completed Hope for Healing and still talks with the men in his group. He still doesn't give me any feedback as to what he is learning, sharing, or fearing. He glosses over everything with one big vague brush. He is past it, so I should be too. He really cannot process with me, even after 6 months of individual trauma therapy. I can keep on in this marriage, praying for a light to go off in his head, and keep my family together, but I feel I'm going be in a stunted marriage. At some point, his lack of processing with me feels abusive. I desire growth and I am stuck.