My husband is in what I believe to be a fallen in love affair. He's afraid to come back, but "misses his family". He has not been completely repentant but it seems like his ambivalence is starting to shift a little back toward the marriage. I've watched multiple videos on ambivalence and in my Harboring Hope group. We just went through week 4 where it also talked about it. All of what I hear talks about not pushing the wrong side of ambivalence, but how do you hit the "right" side while protecting yourself without becoming a doormat?