Q&A Is It Possible That He Is Being Truthful?

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I need to see him be forthcoming on his own. I feel like I only get answers when I press him with questions. For my healing, I need to see him come to me and actually say, “There’s something I lied about earlier and I need to tell you the truth.” Or, “There’s something I need to confess that you don’t know about.” He only says that everything is out, or there is nothing more to tell. He lied so easily during the affair and I never questioned. He even had a perfect answer, when I questioned something that didn’t make sense. I have to start believing and trusting my gut at some point. For example, he has said that during the times he and AP spent the night together, they would sleep separately after sex. That makes no sense to me, but he insists that this is the truth. I need SOMETHING that shows me he can come to me on his own with honesty, and not come clean only when I press with my questions. It could be about anything, not just with the affair. It could be about a past lie, or something he’s deceived me about in the past. I think that after all of this, he just might take anything else he’s hiding to his grave. I want him to listen to the advice that Rick said, when he said he wanted husbands to think that they would rather lose their wife, and then lie to them. Am I asking for too much? We are almost 6 months out and he is also in HFH, week 4. We also see a therapist together and separately.

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