Q&A qWhat Are Appropriate Separation Protocols?

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My husband and I are separated as he is still in his long distance affair, however, his actions are and have been ambivalent. Finally, after not going to individual counselling for eight months, has agreed to go back this week, so hopeful! God has clearly shown me we will be reconciled but I'm at a loss as how to act around him until he figures that out. While separated and still in contact because of finances and business, should the betrayed recognize birthdays, observe holidays with the unfaithful? Do I give him a card, gift, phone call or just ignore the day all together so he knows what he'll be missing? I have done HH and am working on healing myself while getting out of God's way in regards to my husband. I am having trouble knowing how to remain strong and loving but enforcing boundaries or sometimes even recognizing when I need one. Any help would be appreciated. Thank you.



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