Q&A What Do I Do When My Husband's Needs Are a Trigger for Me?

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I saw a question about exercise and how it’s a trigger. For me, I have never enjoyed exercising. My husband does, so much so that he met his affair partner at the gym. Working out was always a problem for us. He nagged me constantly about working out with him. To him, having a gym buddy is a huge need that he needs met. He is now saying that it’s still a big need for him. But for me, the added dynamic of having spent his time at the gym with someone else triggers me. I want to meet his need, but what do I do when that need is also a trigger?



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