Q&A Why is My Mate Not Making Healing and Recovery a Priority?

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Dear Leslie & John,

I'd like to ask your opinion about current situation. Our D-day was six years ago. Before 3 months I've finished my HH course. Then we accomplished the First Step Bootcamp together. According to this, my husband disclosure another two affairs with prostitutes. But I try, I want to move forward in spite of a new wave of pain. It seemed that everything goes better, secrets left behind. My husband was ready to start Hope for Healing, but he is still delaying... I see he has long working hours, he is tired. He enjoys his day off working with excel, watching sport match, sometimes drinking beer. He wants to have gatherings with coworkers, he wants to continue his recreational activity, which is dancing in ensemble and he doesn't want to do it with me, because I am not a professional dancer. 

It seems that I have no room in his schedule. I am just the best mother of his children. He isn't affectionate. And now we are not talking to each other 9 days at all. This was the result after our fight when I said, ''I am against your dancing before we take healing'' . He said, "Family is not my prison. Your needs are my prison''. How could the need of affection be a prison?? How could the desire to seek recovery first be a prison? 
I am tired, I am exhausted and I am considering divorce...



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