Q&A Am I Being Overly Sensitive?

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Seven months ago I had a one night stand with a co worker. I was intoxicated, had poor boundaries, and found myself emotionally connecting with the affair partner. Later in the night things progressed towards a lustful kiss. No other physical or emotional boundaries were crossed. During recovery my betrayed husband told me about a couple incidences that he has kept from me. One incident happened last year with a single mutual friend of ours. He was intoxicated and dancing with her and admits to feeling attracted when he placed his hand innocently on her hip. The other incident happened about 14 years ago with a single mutual friend of ours. He was intoxicated and admits to provocatively dancing with her and also admits that he became sexually aroused but they laughed it off and nothing else happened. Compared to what I did, his incidences seem small but I am still struggling with the fact that he kept these secrets from me. I honestly feel hurt, angry, and a little betrayed myself. Am I being overly sensitive? How do I go about dealing with this?

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