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Hi Rick, I have been working at recovering from my husband’s betrayal awhile now. Just over a year. I find myself in a less volatile state but by no means entirely stable. The pictures still fill my head of the two of them. I still can't wrap my head around the “why?”. I wonder if maybe I skirted the questions because of my fear of asking too much. I didn't go for specifics. I still don't think that will help. But something is missing. There is a piece that is missing and I cannot put this in its proper place. I don't fully understand how this occurred ---or more so why this choice was made wen there were so many other options on the table. How does a man lie daily multiple times to his partner who believes him to be the most honest, honorable man? I fear I won't ever wrap my head around this to feel as I should as a wife. I still feel such humiliation and hurt. I am not beyond comprehending. I just simply don't. Is there anything else I should consider doing? Something else I should be asking for? I am at a loss and feel that we may not make it. Thanks for your thoughts.



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