Why Aren’t Unfaithful Spouses More Compassionate and Empathetic after an Affair?

It seems like it would be a no-brainer, that after disclosure, the unfaithful spouse would display significant empathy and compassion for the betrayed spouse in their pain. While understandable and reasonable, it's simply not always the case. But why is that? After a spouse has been unfaithful, betrayed their partner, and broken their heart, why would they further traumatize the betrayed partner, with blaming, accusation, anger, and indifference? While it may seem counterintuitive, the truth is, this scenario happens far more often than victims of infidelity realize. Today, Samuel shares insight into the mind of the unfaithful partner, and why compassion and empathy are not always immediate in the mind of the unfaithful.

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