My husband is 72. His affair partner is 41 and married with children. We are currently living together and have had a couple of D-Days. She is asking him to divorce. He has told her no but still sees her. She is happy to be his mistress. I have read a couple of emails and she is in extreme limerence as is he. This has gone on for 2 years. I cannot get him to talk or if he does he lies. I ask questions rarely. I need help wading through ambivalence. He will not see a counselor.