Q&A Can You Please Give Me a Detailed Outline of What a Structured Separation Is and How to Implement It?

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My husband and I are living separately. We have done the EMS Weekend and EMS Online. Things have only gotten worse. During both EMS Weekend and EMS Online my husband used porn consistently and had a complete lack of empathy. Most the time he was angry and venomous and said his behavior was my fault. During EMS Online he took off his ring to ask other women out, sought out hookers, his porn use continued continuously, As did the complete lack of empathy; I found out he gave me an STD and found out he has lied to me throughout the entire time I have known him. He treats me cruelly: when my dad died in January I called and told him. His response was “go call someone who cares.” He insults me and how I look. I verbally lash out in response (yelling, threatening to divorce, and name calling) then he blames me and says I’m the problem. I am at my wits end. Things have become truly toxic. I want to leave and give up but I have an irrational hope that things could get better; that we could have the marriage I dreamed of; that God could work a miracle; that the man I fell in love with could return (or be real, which I question if he ever really was or If it was all just a show). I don’t want to live this way but I don’t want to give up and regret it. I’m loosing hope and will power. Please tell me how to implement a structured separation as a very last ditch effort to save our marriage.



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