Q&A Could It Be Limerance When the Affair Partner Is an Old Flame?

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My partner of 23 years had a 5 month affair with an ex. They cheated on me when I was pregnant with our first child. They had almost no contact, until they decided to meet again, immediately fell in love and started their affair. When caught, 6 month ago, he told me they´re soulmates, he had always loved her more, his life would have been much happier and he could never get over her. Later he decided to give us a chance and promised to cut contact, but didn´t for 3 more months. Now he wants to restore our family and agreed to EMS Online. She's married with kids too and he told her, he would prefer her, but has to stay for our kids. To me he now claims he loves me and she would leave her marriage, but I feel totally second choice and don’t want to be forever compared to her. I got only little information, he claims mostly not to remember. Also he doesn´t understand how hard this is for me and wants to pretend as if nothing had happened and not talk about it. I think about it night and day, searching for proof, that he loves her not me, the things he did for her, the time and money he invested , things he wrote, all of that he isn’t doing for me. Could it be limerance when it’s an old flame? I couldn't stand it again.



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