Q&A Does My Mate Still Have Feelings for His Affair Partner?

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My spouse is doing Hope for Healing and we completed EMS Online. He is in counseling and seeing a CSAT. It’s been 10 months and I still feel like he has feelings for this other person and isn’t honest. I open up about all my triggers with him and he avoids talking about them all the time. When I ask he will say things like I didn’t remember or it wasn’t about her it was about me yet I catch him in lies. Like he remembers where he picked up lunch once but doesn’t remember her best friends name the one she talked about all the time or her hometown? I feel like he manipulates me and keeps his thoughts and feelings for this person to himself and even though they don’t talk I feel like we cant move on because he won’t let her go even though he says he has. We also do the check ins and he doesn’t even ask my my feelings and says I say them all the time. He doesn’t seem interested in knowing what I think or feel yet he keeps saying he loves me. He promises me he will do all these things and he doesn’t. I know he’s doing counseling and group but in a way I feel like that’s the easier part as he isn’t actually trying to connect with me.. He’s not being open and honest and transparent with me.. How do I know if he is in this because he loves me and wants our marriage or because he doesn’t want to lose his home? Or some other reason? I feel like I could leave right now and he wouldn’t even notice.



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