We are 2+ years from D-Day and 7 months from the final disclosure. We were making progress before the last disclosure but as the betrayed, I actually didn’t think we would make it after I learned the biggest betrayal of all. My husband needed to be truthful, but unfortunately it took him 19 months into our recovery to come forward. We are working hard but I still have dark moments, and every now and then, want to give up. My husband gets defeated during these moments.

During our strong periods, we talk about recommitment and wanted to ask as a couple. How do you really know if it's the right time to recommit?

Betrayed Wife: Part of me wants the romance and hope surrounding a ceremony. I think it could be a huge boost to my very wounded spirit and kick off our new marriage. Yes, I still have some doubts but we have worked so hard and so long, I can't imagine that we won't make it.

Unfaithful Husband: This is important to us but the last thing I want is to do this too soon. Should I be certain we can save our marriage before taking this step? I'm also worried about doing nothing because I don't want to take “us” for granted. My wife still has triggers and flooding, and even though less frequent, I feel that it's too soon to take this step. I want this to be perfect for my wife and meaningful to us as a couple.

Can you give us guidance on taking this important step?