Q&A How Do I Forgive Myself for Choosing to Stay?

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I have always had very strong opinions on infidelity and always believed it to be the ultimate, over forever kind of deal breaker in a relationship. Then it happened to me. D-Day was 5 months ago. I obviously love my unfaithful and agreed to make no decisions while we completed EMSO. Now that we have completed week 10 and we are almost finished I know I need to make some decision as to if I am out or want to keep doing recovery work with him to try and save this relationship. My biggest issue I feel like I am betraying myself and my personal morals and values if I stay and because I want to stay. The feeling of betraying myself is causing a lot of emotional upheaval in me and I feel is pushing me to end the relationship when I also feel it may be a mistake to do so.



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