Rick, my husband and i have lived together for 14 years married for 11. I found out of an affair in 2013 He has always been evasive of the past , his secrets drive me nuts , he has disclosed 1affair but i still feel very sure there is more to the story ... And have quite a few phone numbers of women in his address book and 1number tacked away in his wallet .. (This woman said she never has seen him before). So he randomly pulls phone numbers out of thin air??? How do I get him to see the importance of disclosure....? I feel without that we are missing out a connection because I am holding back... And because he is 68 years old is he here because he’s too old to leave? And just says he loves me because...