My wife is in limerence and is grieving for the loss of her affair partner. I can conceptually understand that this is normal and necessary. But in her grief for the affair partner she cannot see my grief, my pain, and my losses. There is very little empathy and so much ambivalence even though the affair partner is now out of the picture. I don’t know what to think, if I should extend any trust, how to support her, how to support myself. It is painful to watch her grieve for the loss of another man and not be able to verbalize value in me or in marriage that is in front of her.