I am one year past discovery. My wife have multiple emotional affairs and a physical affair. She often says she wants to "fix it", have things "back like before", and do things like we used to. I don't want to go back to the same marriage or the same person that was selfish, manipulative, and dishonest. Many small triggers of some of the root causes I choose to remove from my life, I am committed to EMS Online and my own healing, as I don’t will not to be the same as before, I want to be a better person than I was and I hope she sees that as well. How do I respond to what seems like selfish demands from her to do things as we did before?