My husband and I are in EMS Online and I have listened to a ton of videos from Samuel. I keep hearing that as a betrayed I should not compare myself to the affair partners but no one ever really says how to stop comparing myself. What tools can I use to stop doing it? There have been 10 women and they have all been skinnier and prettier than me. My husband even stated that some of the affair was about “skinny sex”. This is even after I lost a bunch of weight. I am just so lost and devastated. We are both in counseling and in marital counseling along with EMS Online. I just need some kind of relief from this despair, worthlessness, self loathing, and hopelessness.