As a betrayed spouse, how important is it to keep some sense of normalcy in your life? Keeping established routines for social interaction, meals, workwork, etc. I have been given the opportunity to take time off from work by my employer to deal with this situation. I feel like I have so much to process right now that work is a distraction for me. What has been your experience when counseling the betrayed? I'm so glad God called you to help others through this tragedy. You have been nothing short of a miracle to me.