Q&A How Was He Able to Do a 180 Turn on Discovery?

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My husband had an affair that lasted approximately a year and a half. At least that is what we think, as he says that he does not remember the actual time period where he initially reached out to the affair partner. It was an almost completely emotional affair that was highly sexually charged. They met up one night for sex. He carried out this affair throughout marriage counseling for about 9 months. During the entire affair, he was very cold and distant towards me. It was definitely worse in the beginning, as he was actually hurtful in the texts that he would send me, when he would send them, and pretty much ignored me at home. After marriage counseling, he started to become nicer, but remained very distant and cold. The night I found the texts, it was like a switch flipped, and he all of the sudden became the husband that I had been begging him to bring back this whole time, that he maintained he no longer could be. He ended the affair that night, we did the boot camp and are going into our first week of EMS Online. Have you ever heard of this type of behavior, and what on Earth causes it? I can't seem to get it out of my mind, the distance and the hurtful texts, for so long. Then the confusion around how he could just do a 180 and become the loving spouse that I had been begging for, willing to do whatever it takes to mend our marriage after so many months of acting almost completely indifferent.



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