Q&A Is It Healthy for the Betrayed to Know Intimate Details about the Affair Partner?

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My husband had a limerent emotional affair that turned physical but not fully sexual with a coworker. It ended after 3 months. During EMS Online he revealed he also had a one-night stand early on in our marriage that I wasn’t unaware of. I vacillate between extreme sadness and anger. One thing I am angry about was him exposing my private information to the affair partner. Is it healthy for me to ask my husband to share intimate details about the affair partner and her life to resolve my anger for the violation of my privacy? I am so resentful the affair partner was able to look inside my marriage without my knowledge or permission.



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