Q&A Should I Disclose My Revenge Affair to My Mate?

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My husband was unfaithful 10 years ago and while we went to some marriage counseling after, we stopped going because the counselor was horrible. A few years later, I had a revenge affair. It was very short and I never told him about it because I knew that I never wanted to do that again. I had done it just because he had been unfaithful. I know that doesn't justify my actions, but it's truly not my normal nature. I have never been unfaithful since nor wanted to. Recently, I discovered my husband has been unfaithful a second time for the past 8 months. We're in EMSO now and I'm wondering if I should disclose my past infidelity to him? Will it be helpful or hurtful to our current recovery work from his second infidelity? Could this cause my husband to think the "score is even" and relapse in his recovery work?



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