Why the Betrayed Spouse Wants the Unfaithful Spouse to Take Initiative in Recovery Work

Samuel shares insight into a common struggle for couples in recovery.

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Wow, i think the majority of

Wow, i think the majority of the people on the general forum who have been on several years would agree this is why they are still on the forum. What do you think the best way to address this issue is for the betrayed when the US just wont do any work on their own?

I would certainly agree that

I would certainly agree that is why I am still where I am at. I am curious as to the answer re advice.

You are spot on. I wish my

You are spot on. I wish my UH had someone to say this to him early on. I was the one searching for books on betrayal and searching the internet for any information I could find. I found affair recovery and shared it with him. At one point I would bombard him with your video blogs. He definitely did not initiate recovery. It’s like you say, didn’t make me feel safe, loved or really wanted. Then when he would do something, I would think it’s only because I had to ask. He is now doing so much better on doing his recovery work. We took the EMSO and that was a life saver and really is when he finally “got it.”

Samuel, I am ready to give

Samuel, I am ready to give up. My husband is a narcissist and our Dday was over 2 years ago. Have you thought about making a video addressing narcissism ?