Q&A Should I Have the Same Anger towards My Affair Partner That My Spouse Has?

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Question

My Spouse has strong anger/hatred toward my Affair Partner for the damage she did to us while at the same time holding me 100% responsible for my actions. While I have no desire to have anything to do with her and am totally committed to restoring with my wife, I don't think I feel the same level of anger/hatred toward my AP. My wife feels that lack of anger/hatred indicated that I am protecting my AP and if I was truly over her, I would feel such strong emotions. Am I missing feelings that I am Supposed to have? How do I deal with this?

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