Q&A Should a Wayward Spouse Be Allowed to Have Friends of the Opposite Gender?

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With my wife’s most recent disclosure, I disclosed that I have been a porn addict, so we are both dealing with both roles. Most of, if not all of, her affairs started with an old friend reaching out to her then the conversation turning to more. Since disclosure she has deleted social media with resistance, deleted contacts in kind of a crappy way while I was gone so assume she still has them somewhere. Honesty is extremely hard to get out of her. We have went days trying to get her to admit she lied about something tiny. I told her early her affairs were still ongoing and the doors were still open because why wouldn't they be? I asked her to read the series about ending an affair, and she still hasn't. She has a male friend that has texted her 3 or 4 times since. Once she replied then I asked her not to do that. Since he continues and has all the ingredients to start an affair. I asked her to text him and ask him not to contact her. She has read most of "Just Friends" by Shirley Glass and I guess didn't black and white it enough for her. Should a wayward spouse be allowed to have friends of the opposite gender? I have expressed I'm not comfortable with it, her response is I'm just controlling or gaslighting about how I'm healthy enough to say that.



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