My husband and I are in the last week of EMS Online. It has been a very good journey and although my husband has not cut ties with affair partner, we have managed to find some good emotional connection again. He has indicated that he will not be stopping the affair. He has however agreed to take Hope for Healing to see what else can be learned and maybe get some help to stop it. I have also decided to take Harboring Hope for myself. The problem we have is that we have to live together by law due to our immigration status in New Zealand. If we were to separate which I think would be a good option, how would we do this in house? And is it wise to start thinking about dating during separation? From the betrayed perspective?