Q&A What do you Suggest I do Now?

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Hi Rick,

It has been horrific since attending EMS weekend in December 2014. I felt we were going in the right direction and then something changed. When we would talk about his affair he would start a fight with me and would end up leaving. Sometimes I told him to. This pattern has been a concern and I now know it’s so he does not have to talk about his affairs. I finally got him to do a polygraph and it proved deception. He told me of 11 other women but won’t discuss any of it with me. If I ask a question about the new discovery, he says to wait for his disclosure statement because it’s in there. I never received one. He only gave bits and pieces at EMS Weekend. I still think and feel he is hiding things from me. When I think about him being deceitful to me with other women, it breaks my heart. I feel so let down with all the lies he has told for 33 years of marriage and still continues to do so. I'm so tired of the games he plays with my life.

I am a person that needs a complete timeline of who, when, where, and what was said. His refusal to give the needed information indicates to me that there is no commitment to working on our marriage. Until I get the info I need, I will remain in this limbo. I can’t move on, forgive, or start rebuilding my life. He keeps the pain front and center for me, but I cannot let this go and keep my own self-respect. I did that once already! What do you suggest I do now?



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