Q&A What Kind of Affair Is This?

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My faithful, obese, bald 60-year-old husband of 36 years was lured into a cyber-affair via a LinkedIn message he answered from a very attractive 37-year old “woman” who lives out of state. She randomly contacted him, had no shared connections, nor interests, nor business. After three days she asked to text; 200 exchanges within the first 24 hours! A week later she suggested moving to google chat for more privacy. Early on, she began love bombing him. Within two weeks her sob stories began, always in crisis and needing financial help. He began sending her large sums of money; at her insistence, he texted VISA gift cards. Two weeks in, my geeky husband began aggressively grooming her for in-person sex and a long term relationship. Multiple times he propositioned her to meet— he would fly to her location to “take her to a romantic dinner,” he proposed a 4 day oceanfront beach holiday, purchased viagra (for his ED) and numbing wipes (for his PE). She kept canceling “due to school”. They had 8 incidents of “anonymous “ live cam cyber sex. He aggressively planned and purchased (while on OUR vacation, with me only feet away) an elaborate 5-star oceanfront 10-day Hawaiian lovefest. Total cost $25,000/30,000; outlay $16,000. Two days prior, she canceled; our loss $8,000. He sent 66 VISA cards totaling $34,000 over five months! HE WAS SCAMMED! I AM DEVASTATED!



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