Q&A Why Can't I Get past My Triggers?

To watch the video please purchase a subscription to the Recovery Library.
To watch the video, please purchase a subscription to the Recovery Library.
Gain unlimited access to over 1,800 articles and expert Q&A videos.
Already a Recovery Library member? Log in to listen to the full recording.


My husband and I have been married for 19 years. My husband has a sex addiction. The last major D-Day was July of 2018. We have done EMS Online and we are in week 35 of married for life. I've also done Harboring Hope. My problem is that I I'm struggling with one particular trigger from back in 2006 before we knew my husband had a sex addiction. We were separated at the time and one night my husband was in my home and I attempted to initiate sex. He rejected me and I went to bed. He then left in the middle of the night went to a hotel with his affair partner and they had sex. I don't know how long he stayed in town but at some point after that he went back to his home in another state. We reconciled a couple of weeks later and he went on to have many other Affairs many other infidelities. I continue to struggle with this trigger. It is in my top three. I am ready to scrap my marriage because I feel like I will never heal from this. I've tried talking to my husband and he has basically nothing. I have done EMDR. I've journaled. I've talked to him about it. And I am still stuck. My husband currently attends SAA meetings and is doing 12 step with intermittent counseling. Why can't I get past this trigger?



RL_Media Type: 

What type of affair was it?

Our free Affair Analyzer provides you with insights about your unique situation and gives you a personalized plan of action.
Take the Affair Analyzer

Free Surviving Infidelity Bootcamp

Our experts designed this step-by-step guide to help you survive infidelity. Be intentional with your healing with this free 7-day bootcamp.
I would highly recommend giving this a try.
-D, Texas