When clients sit down in my office or at our EMS Weekend Intensives, I know they're looking for someone to make sense of the carnage they are walking through. The hopelessness in their voice is palpable, and their frustration is evident.
Part of why we do what we do is to help those in crisis find some semblance of normalcy, hope, and answers.
The amount of wrong information and bad advice out there for couples in crisis due to infidelity or addiction is not only frustrating but alarming. From inaccurate information to oversimplified steps to heal, a couple or individual can feel as though they are lost in the middle of a barren desert, following a map that leads to nowhere.
Those who participate in any of our Online Courses or EMS Intensives are provided...
Samuel discusses why a marriage affected by infidelity or addiction can still be fulfilling and rewarding.
My friend recently had a terrible burn accident while frying bacon. A stumble and the hot grease splashed across the palm and side of her hand. As an EMT, she knew she must douse the injury in cold water and clean it. And not just clean but rid the area of the skin that was peeled away. The pain was exquisite. A trip to emergency room quickly followed.
"Give me two minutes," the ER doctor pleaded. "You did a good job and the right thing in cleaning your burn, but I have to get the rest of the dead skin and debris so it won't get infected."
My friend...
Samuel discusses long term vision for couples trying to heal from infidelity and addiction.
Samuel shares insight into a challenging part of the disclosure process.
Samuel discusses why many mistakes are made in the attempt to heal from infidelity or addiction.
Samuel interviews best selling author Thomas Gagliano and discusses self sabotage, infidelity and addiction.
Samuel tackles a tough but needed conversation about when to actually get help after infidelity.
Samuel discusses how to build bridges with both unfaithful and betrayed spouses.
"You have to trust the process."
I've heard this mantra of sorts from many research-based and well-respected betrayal recovery sources. It is the very backbone and lifeblood of expert help such as what is offered through Affair Recovery's Programs and Courses. It is so hard to do when your heart is shattered into a million fragmented pieces, and all you want, all you need, is to escape the horrendous pain. A pain like no other.
There are many necessary elements of successful recovery. Just as there are many...
Samuel discusses one of the worst mistakes he made in his own recovery early on.
Samuel interviews a betrayed male spouse who shares his journey of overcoming denial and comparison.
Samuel provides help for those who feel as though their betrayed spouse is testing them.
Samuel answers a question many betrayed spouse have asked themselves regarding the future of their relationship after infidelity is discovered.
Samuel shares insight into one of the biggest mistakes made when helping betrayed spouses.
When couples face ambivalence in either spouse it can seem like the end, when in fact, it can be positive for the relationship.
Samuel shares long term insight and hope for couples and individuals trying to heal.
I recently made this family favorite. The first two batches came out perfectly. On the third and final batch, the kitchen timer did not go off. I use this timer for all sorts of cooking and baking projects. It is the type where you rotate the dial past the time you want and turn back to the exact number of minutes desired. It ticks like a time bomb and rings as a school...
Samuel provides necessary support for couples who are trying to heal from infidelity.
Samuel answers a viewer question about whether or not a spouse can really change after infidelity.
Samuel discusses what actions a betrayed spouse can take when the unfaithful refuses to end the affair.
Samuel shares a powerful and effective tool for individuals on both sides of infidelity to heal.
Samuel provides a strategy for those trying to manage triggers and intrusive thoughts after disclosure.
We want to support you during this Coronavirus pandemic. First, we must acknowledge how difficult it is, and how much courage it requires, to continue infidelity recovery work during this crisis. While there are many helpful practices you can do at home during this time of social distancing, the truth is that we all need community and connection with people who get what we’re going through. We have that community here for you.
What we’re doing to help: EMS Weekend is going virtual! Since travel is not allowed, we’re bringing the entire life-changing EMS...
Samuel shares important key principles to repair the lens a betrayed spouse sees their unfaithful partner through.
Samuel discusses emotional vs physical affairs and the impact emotional affairs have on betrayed spouses.
Samuel discusses how to navigate trauma in light of recent world events.
Samuel discusses anger, the betrayed spouse, and what the unfaithful can do to mitigate that anger.
What do the words 'I'm sorry' really mean? They are used so frequently that they don't seem to carry much weight. If you are like me, however, they are the first thing we mutter when we realize we have made a mistake or done something wrong. When it comes to the pain of infidelity, the words 'I'm sorry' have to feel downright insulting to a betrayed spouse. As they should, because it isn't enough. The truth of the matter is, it will never be enough to...
Samuel gives direction to both the betrayed and unfaithful on how to deal with isolation after disclosure.
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