EMS Online

Online Course For Couples To Heal After Infidelity, 2nd Edition

Tired of not having a thorough plan to heal after infidelity? This course walks you through the critical steps required to address the infidelity and reconnect as a couple. "EMS" Online stands for Emergency Marital Seminar Online. Our methodology has been honed over decades of experience exclusively specializing in this field. Up front, it’s important to know that we won’t shame the unfaithful spouse nor blame the betrayed spouse. This is a safe place for both of you to heal.

About the Online Course

  • Length: 13 Weeks
  • Time commitment: 3-4 hours/week
  • Designed for: Couples only
  • Format: Online Small Group based
  • Group size: 5 couples + Group Leader
  • Price: $695 or 3 payments of $243
Weekly Format
  • Watch Rick teach the lecture (13 total)
  • Watch the Mentors' stories of healing (12 total)
  • Read the workbook lesson & complete exercises
  • Talk with your Small Group via conference call
    led by a trained and compassionate Group
    Leader who has also experienced infidelity
  • Chat on your group’s private online wall 24/7

Specialized tools promote healing

Weekly Expert Lectures

EMS Online's methodology has years of experience behind it and is faith-based. Rick Reynolds, LCSW has specialized in working with couples after infidelity for 24 years and has personally worked with 2,500 couples. He has learned what works, what doesn’t work and why. EMS Online 2nd Edition presents this knowledge with the right lessons in the right order.

In-Depth Workbooks
Book 1:
Hope for the Broken
Book 2:
Help for the Rebuilder

Two different workbooks are included in the course, one for the betrayed spouse and one for the unfaithful spouse. The 420 page workbooks will be mailed inconspicuously in a plain box that does not say “Affair Recovery” anywhere on it. Each chapter covers one week of the course and contains essential lessons and practical exercises that you’ll discuss with your Small Group each week.

Hope from others gone before

Weekly Mentor Videos

Each week has two unscripted videos of that week’s Mentor Couple. In the first video, they tell their stories - inspiring journies from the darkest of times through healing and to their present lives of meaning. In the second video, they explain the role that that week’s lesson played in their recovery journey.

Belong to a Small Group that gets what you're going through

Weekly Small Group Support
Taking this journey with a group provides the most powerful way to heal after infidelity. After the course, many people say they’ve developed friends who know them on a deeper level than anyone else and accept them for who they are. Small Groups help us:
  • Build empathy
  • Break out of isolation
  • Validate our (seemingly crazy) emotions
  • Receive encouragement
Talk with your small
group via conference call
Post on your group’s
private wall 24/7.
Anonymity is key. Only
first names are shared.

What’s covered in the curriculum, the short list

For spouses who have been betrayed:
  • How to wrap your head around what happened
  • Why it’s not your fault
  • How your mate can finally ‘get’ what you‘re going through
  • How to manage triggers and intrusive thoughts
  • Why it’s important to address the infidelity directly
  • What to do with anger and difficult emotions
  • The most significant barriers to healing
  • What’s needed to build safety and trust
  • The many layers of forgiveness and why it takes time
  • How to talk with your mate to develop a healthy relationship
  • How and when to restore intimacy after infidelity
  • How to live with a new sense of peace and hope
For spouses who have been unfaithful:
  • Why full disclosure is the best road to take, not the worst
  • Why we don’t shame or pummel you
  • How to develop deep empathy for your spouse
  • How to authentically communicate sincere remorse
  • Ways to let go of your shame and redefine your identity
  • How to help your mate heal and feel more secure
  • How to set boundaries that help restore trust
  • How to make a Travel Plan when traveling that helps create accountability and safety
  • How to develop a closer connection with your mate
  • How to prevent relapse
  • How to be closer and more transparent with one another than ever before

Answers From Experts: Weekly Video Q&A with Rick

Expert Q & A
Have a question about the curriculum that your Group Leader or fellow members can’t answer? Do not fear. You can submit your question to Rick. We film Rick reading and answering questions in the AR Studio once a week (most weeks). Then we post those videos for you to view as a participant. How’s that for an answer?

What else is included?

Complimentary 12 Month Recovery Library Membership

You’ll receive 12 months of free access to the Recovery Library which typically costs $360.00. It gives you access to over 700 Expert Articles, Podcasts, and Videos that were authored by professionals who also have lived through and recovered from infidelity. If you don’t know about the Recovery Library yet, you can learn more here.

EMS Online Aftercare (optional)

After you’ve completed the 13 week course, we provide you with 52 weeks of online curriculum to help you continue meeting with your Small Group if you wish. The aftercare program is called Married for Life. By this point, you’ll be very familiar with the group process and your aftercare conference calls will be self-led by you or one your fellow group members.

100% Money-Back Guarantee

We are confident in the new EMS Online 2nd Edition course and we take pride in its quality. If both spouses are not satisfied with our services and have attended at least ten out of the thirteen group meetings, a 100% refund will be provided. Learn more about the refund policy here

FAQ

  • What's new in the 2nd Edition of EMS Online?
    After three years of hard work, we’ve completely overhauled EMS Online to create one of the most well thought-out recovery courses available. We filmed thirteen incredible lectures with Rick, and twelve inspiring Mentor Couples who recall their journeys of healing, unscripted. So much video was going to be packed into this course that we moved offices and built our very own AR Studio to film it all.
  • What day and time will my Small Group’s conference calls take place?
    After purchasing the course, you will list on a form all of the days and times that you are available. Our staff then analyzes the all of the new participants’ combined availability and finds a day and time that works for five couples and a Group Leader. This will be the time and day each week that your Small Group will meet via conference call for the 13 weeks. Once we’ve decided on the day and time, we will email your group’s Start Date to you. The most common times are evenings Sunday through Thursday. Don’t worry, we will be in close contact with you when scheduling.
  • How soon will I be placed in a group and start the course after the registration deadline?
    Typically, groups start within two weeks of the registration deadline. The more open everyone’s availability is, the sooner the group can start. Occasionally it may take longer for a group to start if there are not five couples that absolutely can’t meet at the same time. However, you will immediately have access to your course materials and all of the Recovery Library resources while you’re group is being scheduled.
  • What does a typical week look like?
    On your own time, before your group’s conference call for the week, you will watch Rick’s Lecture video online (20 - 45 minutes), watch the two Mentor videos online 1) their story and 2) their reflection on the role that that week’s lesson played in their recovery (45 minutes), read the lesson in your workbook and complete exercises that later will be discussed with your group. The week culminates with your Small Group’s conference call that is led by your Group Leader (1.5 hours). They facilitate your group’s discussion of highs and lows, exercises, and encouragement. Throughout the week you can chat with your group on your private Small Group Wall (similar to a forum). This gives you 24/7 connection and support with your group so when you face similar challenges and victories you can discuss them with one another.
  • Who are the Group Leaders?
    Group Leaders are carefully selected. Almost all of our Group Leaders are alumni of Affair Recovery’s programs who are several years out. After experiencing incredible healing themselves, they feel a calling to help others who are where they once were. They have the compassion, desire, and talent that’s required to lead groups through this process. Our Group Leaders have more than just book-knowledge because they’ve personally experienced infidelity. They don’t just have sympathy; they have real empathy. We’ve found that people who have walked this path before and who have completed our Group Leader training program are able to provide incredible support, leadership, and encouragement during this difficult time. They are a light to others in darkness.
  • What if I’m not sure I want to save my marriage?
    If you’re not sure you want to save your marriage, you might also be not sure that you don’t want to save it. Many couples find that the course helps them solidify an answer to this question. Considering the emotional, financial, and relational cost of divorce, it’s probably worth exploring, for 90 days, whether or not your marriage can become something different, something that brings you joy. Even not having feelings for your mate at this point is normal. Even so, there’s a good chance that those feelings will come back, but not without some changes by both parties. If you’re willing to do the work, change can happen. EMS Online can help you get started.
  • What if we already have a marriage therapist?
    Many marriage therapists actually recommend EMS Online to their current clients and continue seeing their clients while in the course. Therapists value the course’s powerful Small Group format because they know group work is the gold standard when healing from trauma and developing empathy. They have seen from past clients how thoroughly the course addresses the infidelity and how much faster their clients are able to heal the attachment wounds that resulted from the infidelity.
  • What if sexual addiction is involved?
    EMS Online is a good fit as a first step because we help the couple heal from the betrayal(s) so that they can be on the same page to tackle the issue of addiction together in the future. We cover relapse prevention, how to identify high-risk behaviors (and how to avoid them), and outline the necessary steps to be taken to keep the relationship safe. This is not designed as a substitute for the protocols necessary for the specific treatment of an addiction and the work that must be done therein.
  • Disclaimer: EMS Online 2nd Edition is educational only. It is not counseling or therapy. If you need professional counseling, please seek a licensed professional in your area.
Affair Recovery’s EMS Online course literally saved our marriage from divorce. We had tried other professionals, which only lead us to more pain in our marriage. It was a relief to find someone who understood our pain. It was comforting to know that others were feeling and thinking the same thoughts as us. We were not alone on this journey. Our marriage has been enriched by the valuable lessons we have learned through EMS Online.

- K, Alabama
This course saved our marriage. I was ambivalent about my husband's ability to understand my pain and the cost of his betrayal. I was not sure he would ever "get it" to the point that I would feel safe. This EMS Online course helped both of us understand each other on a level we never have before. We are closer now than we have ever been in 25 years of marriage and 36 years of knowing each other. Being able to interact with other couples going through the same thing was a blessing. There is hope for our future together because of this course.

-L. Nebraska

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