Q&A Am I Wrong for Feeling Exhausted?

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My D-Day was nearly five years ago now. My spouse had a four year sexual affair with a family friend who I viewed as an older Christian mentor in my life. After finding out, he was very repentant, and so I desired to stay in the marriage and work things out, especially because we had small children. Over the years that followed however, there was not the 180 degree turn around that I was expecting. Even though he didn’t have another affair, he continued to lie about porn usage, remained a workaholic, and was often rude and angry with me and our children. He was always willing to go to counseling. We tried several different counselors, but there was never any lasting change. In April, I finally asked for a separation. Fearing divorce for the first time, he has now made a complete transformation and continues to desire nothing but reconciliation. He is a different man. The problem is, now I’m mentally and emotionally exhausted. I cannot imagine ever having sex with him again. I did before out of obligation and honestly feel very bitter that now the pressure is on me to continue our marriage. If it were not for our kids, I would ask for a divorce. Am I wrong to feel this way since he is repentant and has worked hard to prove it?

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