I am 5 months past D-day. My husband had a 16 month affair with a coworker. We are working to restore our marriage and it's exciting and terrifying. It seems like the first few months held so much momentum, revelations, positive changes, and now that has kind of dropped off. I don't feel afraid of relapse at all, just a natural waning of progress. I completed Harboring Hope, my husband has been to individual therapy, and we are going to couples therapy. As much as I feel this is a natural progression, after all, our entire lives can't revolve around this forever, I do find my anxiety level, need for reassurance; desire to dial up the connection growing again. It feels like a step backward. I'm sure this is "normal" but it feels depressing to go back to that. My husband isn't averse to reassuring me, but I just don't like the way it feels to be so needy again.