Q&A Do I Quit Expressing My Hurt, Asking Questions, and Pray for Peace in Our Remaining Years?

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It has been two years since discovery. Disclosure has provided few details. He says it was 30 years ago and he can’t remember much about the 2 affairs. I have trouble believing him as I have heard him change details many times in other areas. What he said was a 2 year affair was with a married woman who attended the same out of town meetings as him. He said it wasn’t about the sex and he didn’t have any emotional attachment to her. They continued to be at the same meetings for 25 years, until both retiring within months of each other. He was 72, she was 71. I had an emotional affair 43 years ago for 7 months. He has many narcissistic traits. When I express a hurt or ask a question about his affairs, he turns it back on me by saying what I done was 100 times worse than anything he done. I am 73, he is 79, married for 55 years and he says I’ve made his life hell for 57 years but he loves me and doesn’t want a divorce. I am taking Harboring Hope. He is talking to a pastor who told me it was a long time ago, get over it. Do I quit expressing my hurt, asking questions, and pray for peace in our remaining years?



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