Q&A How Can I Overcome Triggers during Sex?

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We are about 2.5 years from D-Day. We are finally doing well in our marriage and really working on recovery together. I've done a lot of recovery work myself such as HH, counseling, EMDR, etc. My problem is that I still can't have sex with my husband without thinking about the sex they had. It happens at some point every single time and just kills the joy of it. Do you have any suggestions on how to overcome this? I still can't be intimate with my eyes open looking at him, we've tried being creative it still doesn't work. the only thing I can think of is would it be helpful at all if I was able to ask the questions about what they did because that is what roles through my head the entire time?



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