My husband shared things and experienced so many ‘first’ with his affair partners that he never experienced with me. I have so many intrusive thoughts and feel like I can’t compare now. Do you ever get over that where it doesn’t bother you? How can I ever feel like it’s something special between us again? It now just feels like an act and everything is ruined and there is no getting anything back. I feel like I just get the left overs now.